Beautiful Despair

This is my clinical approach to a show that is utterly bleak yet is lovely and heartbreaking and should be, but somehow can’t be, written about with the passion I want to:

Dark is a German-language science fiction thriller that takes viewers on a mind-bending journey through time and space, weaving a complex narrative that is equal parts fascinating, strange, and compelling. 

The show's unique take on time travel is what sets it apart. With interconnected timelines, generations, and paradoxes, Dark is an intricate puzzle that challenges viewers to pay close attention. 

As each season unfolds, the layers of this temporal mystery are peeled back, revealing a rich tapestry of interconnected events that leaves you spellbound.

At the heart of Dark are its deeply flawed and multifaceted characters. They are not the conventional heroes we often find in TV series, but rather authentic people shaped by their past, present, and future actions. 

The web of relationships and family ties in Winden, the small town where the series is set, is as tangled as the time travel itself. These characters are unforgettable, their stories resonating long after the credits roll.

As you navigate through the various timelines and intricacies, you can't help but become engrossed in the labyrinthine narrative, always yearning to solve the enigma.

The series' name is more than just a title; it's a reflection of its mood and aesthetics. 

Dark exudes an eerie atmosphere that adds to its overall allure. The cinematography, subdued color palette, and haunting soundtrack create a palpable sense of foreboding that's both strange and captivating.

It doesn't just tell a story; it explores the concept of the butterfly effect with precision. 

Every action, every choice, ripples through time, affecting not only individuals but the entire town of Winden. It's a poignant commentary on the consequences of our decisions and the interconnectedness of our lives.

Dark lingers in your thoughts, demanding repeated viewings to grasp its full complexity. 

Its portrayal of time as an unyielding force, binding past, present, and future, is chilling. For anyone seeking a series that is as strange as it is fascinating, as compelling as it is unforgettable, "Dark" on Netflix is a must-watch.

My un-clinical take on Dark? This could mess you up in the best way possible. 💔 But it's also the gift that keeps on giving because each re-watch shows you something you didn't see before.

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I preface the following not to complain, but to provide context: I was called ugly repeatedly in middle school and am very biased toward that word and the people who use it to demean others. 

I’m not arguing that it’s not a true word when applied to me, just that it is a hurtful and unnecessary one.

Helen Rubinstein once said that "there are no ugly women, only lazy ones.”

This statement oversimplifies beauty by implying that it is solely a result of effort and cosmetics. 

It disregards the diverse factors that contribute to an individual's appearance, including genetics, health, and personal preferences. 

Not everyone has the same access to beauty products or the time to dedicate to an extensive beauty routine, and equating this with laziness is unfair.

The statement perpetuates harmful beauty standards that pressure women to conform to a particular, often unattainable, ideal of beauty. 

It suggests that a woman's worth is contingent on her appearance and the effort she puts into her looks, fostering insecurity and low self-esteem in those who don't meet these standards.

And it ignores the importance of individuality and self-acceptance.

Every person is unique, and embracing one's unique features and characteristics is a crucial aspect of self-confidence and self-love.

Reducing beauty to a matter of diligence and grooming diminishes the significance of accepting oneself as they are.

The portrayal of Maris Crane on "Frasier" has long bothered me due to its treatment of her apparent eating disorder. 

Maris, who is Niles Crane's elusive and unseen wife, then ex-wife, throughout the series, is frequently the subject of jokes and comments related to her extremely thin appearance and peculiar eating habits. (Niles once commented to Fraser how they laughed when they made Maris cry when they tried to get her to eat a piece of pie with ice cream on it).

It's essential to recognize that the show "Frasier" was a sitcom that used humor as its primary mode of entertainment. 

But the way Maris's character is handled is appalling to me. The consistent references to her being emaciated, her unusual diets like "melon cubes" and "paprika," and the fact that she is often portrayed as a controlling and eccentric character, all contributed to the discomfort that some viewers felt. 

These portrayals perpetuate stereotypes and make light of a serious issue, namely eating disorders.

Eating disorders are complex and often debilitating mental health conditions that affect millions of people worldwide. 

They can have severe physical and psychological consequences, making it a delicate subject to handle in a comedic context. 

For many, the humor surrounding Maris's character might ocome across as insensitive and inconsiderate.

The portrayal of Maris in "Frasier" also highlights a broader issue in the entertainment industry: the tendency to use mental health issues as punchlines or character quirks. 

Such depictions can trivialize real struggles and perpetuate stigma. It's essential for creators and writers to approach sensitive subjects like eating disorders with care and sensitivity, recognizing the impact their portrayals can have on viewers who may be going through similar challenges.

While “Frasier" is undoubtedly a beloved show with a vast fan base and remains one of my comfort tv favorites, the treatment of Maris still troubles me. 

It's a reminder that even in the realm of comedy, there's a responsibility to handle sensitive subjects with care and respect, as they have the potential to affect how viewers perceive and understand real-life issues.

Feeling feline

I asked an AI app to draw this picture for me. It's how I wished I looked and pretty much how my cat actually looks.

There's a completely different me out there in the multiverse, somewhere, maybe a million parallel universes away from here, that I wish I could be, that I know I could be.

In the meantime I take refuge in reading passages such as this one:

People loved their pets, often with a degree of openness they couldn't allow themselves to express toward other people.-

Sleeping Beauties by Stephen King

Let’s Talk About S-E-X

As a very un-pretty 53-year-old lesbian virgin, I feel highly unqualified to write about sexual fantasies, but on the other hand, I also have always had a longing inside me that has gone on three decades plus, unspoken, because I just don’t know who to speak to about it. None of my friends would understand.

They either don’t talk about sex, just like I don’t, they’re completely straight and don’t understand what it’s like to long for someone of their own gender or they’re too busy being married to even think about sex if they’re lucky enough to get it.

I don’t really think that what I feel is a fantasy, I’ve never really let my mind go there because of how I was raised and how even now I’m still conflicted about being gay.

I might be underwhelmingly low in my sex drive, but I am overwhelmingly drowning in my romantic side…my fantasy involves finding somebody who would understand and not judge what I am, understand what it’s like to just find beauty in the idea of holding hands of someone special.

That’s because I’ve never had sex. I don’t know what to fantasize about. I just know that my emotions feel like a fantasy. 

Though I can’t stand stereotypes about the LGBTQ community one stereotype I’ve always heard, that I can't quite argue with, is that people sometimes can’t decide if they want to be with someone or of they want to be like that someone. All I know is that the women I’ve been strongly drawn to in my life, starting when I was 16, are people I would love to be like, but also be with...it's so complex and yes, I'm sorry to say, confusing.

My fantasy, given all the wreckage that lies behind it, is still rather simple: I long to be another person in another body, comfortable with both and comfortable with the idea of love and sex and not the fear of going to Hell that goes with it.

…wisps of fantasy, strong despite such flimsiness, but never fully formed because of my fears and lack of experience. Maybe X was write when said write you know, but maybe she also could have said write you feel and long for