more odds and ends

 
 
 

much-needed perspective
helpful article

 

 

Also helpful in down times is watching Misery Bear videos on YouTube:

Misery Bear Prepares For A Date

 

 

 

 

 

I can definitely make peace with never finding true love, but I will never truly be okay until I stop pining for someone totally inappropriate and out of my solar system.

 

It's not just the guilt (though that's a huge part) but the futility of it all. Why would a person feel like that about someone so clearly unavailable, inappropriate and (duh!) uninterested, the "uninterested" both blatantly obvious and the only way it could be.

It’s funny. In film and tv shows (more than books) unrequited love may start out that way and the pain may be intense, but it almost always turns out the recepient of that love feels the same way. In real life, the intensity is just as strong and the feelings the same as in romantic film or tv, but from there it greatly, greatly differs. Also funny how you can love (or think you love) someone so much and it’s all only on you. Just you.

 

This article on dealing with a crush is helpful, if not particularly arranged in a well-organized style. This passage particularly stands out:

If need be, pretend like your #crush isn't there at all, especially if that's what you have to do to keep things on a professional level.


http://allwomenstalk.com/7-ways-to-handle-a-crush-on-a-co-worker/6/



 

It's cute in a way, till you cannot speak

And you leave to have a cigarette, knees get weak

 escape was just a nod and a casual wave

 Obsess about it, heavy for the next two days

It's only just a crush, it'll go away

 It's just like all the others it'll go away

 Or maybe this is danger and you just don't know

 You pray it all away but it continues to grow

from "Tear You Apart" by She Wants Revenge

 

But songs only seem to fuel intense emotions so I think I'll take a book instead. And one particularly surprisingly good read is something I started reading last night:

It's so good I've been able to escape some from real life. I've always liked The Moonstone and The Woman In White, but after going through this:

 

I've discovered so many more novels he wrote, ones that are completely free on Kindle and Google Play.

Many people, it seems, can't read when they're upset over something. I totally get that, but with me it's music I can't listen to when I'm depressed (except classical) and books I turn to for a quick getaway.