For the first time in months I actually felt anxiety-free.
When we parted, my mom said, hugging me fiercely (which isn't something she usually does), "Are you sure you don't mind that you're not married?" I didn't get mad because she asked it in a light tone. I answered that I was fine with it, that I had gotten used to being a spinster and kind of liked it.
My mom looked horrified and told me not to talk about myself that way. But I think sometimes if we use a word that isn't necessarily flattering, we can take away its power over us. And I don't mind. I am (using a very antiquated word) a "spinster." Dictionary.com refers to it as "disparaging" and "offensive," but Urban Dictionary has this comment:
Note* A woman who never enters marriage contract is so smart.
Of course, Urban Dictionary can sometimes be brutal so some of the other definitions for spinster aren't so nice. Some of them, like the one below, make me laugh:
A woman who kept on believing in fairytale-like love stories for too long.
This article on the same topic is rather intriguing:
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