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Except for the "except me" part, I totally get this and love the response from "Ask Polly" columnist:


http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/03/ask-polly-how-do-i-act-normal.html?om_rid=AAAigm&om_mid=_BU922iB8-swbT7


with emphasis on:

Even though I have never been in a relationship, I know it is a massive mistake to try to find your own happiness in someone else. The thing is, I already know what makes me happy in life — another academic field that is considered even more rigorous than the one I am about to graduate from. With this field, I eagerly wake up, reading self-purchased textbooks and studying online, and I feel like it gives me purpose. I count the days until I can graduate from my current college, and enroll in another master's program with the degree I want to study for.

But that means I really have nothing to offer in terms of a relationship for the next few years. I won't have any sort of respectable job. I will just look like that weirdo who stayed in college too long. It is very possible that I won't even go on a date until I am 30. On the days when I am stagnating, my mind quickly returns to thinking about my lack of friends/relationships. Should I be looking for a relationship at this point?

Of course...at age 25, the person who wrote "Ask Polly" is not that abnormal to not have had a relationship yet. I relate to this way more than I wish I did.