There are a lot of theories used both for and against gays and lesbians in trying to 'figure' out why one might be gay.



 
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-cross/cross-gaychange.html
 

Music is the place I go to get away from me. And this is one of my favorite pictures of how I'd like to escape, its aura is so peaceful and lovely. I mean I know it's a picture of Batgirl, but I am still transfixed by the look on her face and the starkness of the backdrop...not to mention that she's finding tranquility so high up off the ground (for me that's truly amazing since I have a huge fear of heights.)

Every once in a while I want to let go and be saved by someone, but then I feel childish. We to have to be our own superheroes...no one else is going to swoop in and take me away from this world on those days that are particularly trying...besides there are more and more days lately when I'd rather be saving someone or something...doing so much more than I am right now with my life and finding a real purpose beyond just existing.

Now if only there were a chapter in here regarding getting rid of feelings for someone...

I really need this book!!

"Their alternative? Put doing good over feeling good and “respect what you do with your feelings, not what they do to you.” So even when you’re forced to live with powerful emotions like envy, anger, fear and disappointment, they needn’t distract you from your regular goals, like avoiding unnecessary conflict, making a living and being a good, decent human."--Read more: The Ultimate Anti-Self-Help Book | Books | PureWow Books 
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good advice...

I am totally smitten with actress Lin Shaye, not in a crush way (though there would be nothing wrong with that, I am sure) but in a 'I would just love to sit down and talk with her over tea' kind of way. She is the only reason the first two "Insidious" movies are any good at all and a huge and wonderfully subdued force behind the much, much better and nicely restrained "Insidious 3," where she has a much more central role.

Her acting gives all three movies a touching sincerity and vulnerability that is seriously lacking in so many horror movies, both the good ones and the bad. And yet her character "Elise" is also amazingly strong in the most wonderful and quiet of ways. In real life, you would just love to have this woman on your side...her character's understated way of caring deeply for the people who come into her life and the way she can take on anything, no matter how much she struggles with it at first.

Lin Shaye is the kind of actress you are just in awe of and in a Hollywood where actresses over the age of 40 do not always get starring roles (AND ones where they are the hero) it is just terrific to see her clearly enjoying her job and making it something so very believable...not always an easy thing to do (as in the case of the first two "Insidious" movies) when things can get a bit garish and, sometimes, even silly. 

"Insidious 3" is a prequel and can stand alone if you have not seen the first and second ones and I am so pleasantly surprised by just how good it is.