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"He finally realized sometimes even if you want something really bad you shouldn't have it." from Law and Order:SVU 

I think the above words can apply to love as much as to anything else, possibly even more and that maybe even should actually read especially. 

We can want love with all our hearts, hearts that are big and more than ready to love someone who could love us back, but that does not mean we should have it even if it was somehow possible it could happen and we were lucky enough it did. And, worse, we can love someone who does not love us back and yet still pine away, which on paper, in the cold hard light of day, seems almost insane and yet hearts are not exactly known for listening to reason. 

On another, completely different episode of Law and Order: SVU Olivia tells a suspect who was willing to go to jail for a man she loved who not only did not love her but was willing to use her: "It was never going to happen. It is not going to happen." She says very firmly and matter of fact, but also rather sympathetically even though the woman has done horrible things in the name of love.

It is a really good scene and I felt chills when I first saw it, both for the story line and personally because I have known that kind of pining that is completely unreasonable and even wrong and it is scary to think feelings can overpower the most basic fact of what is going on: the person you care for does not care back. That should be enough to snap a person out of it but, sadly, it often is not and only time and holding on to the truth and not your feelings can save you.